Coach Kathy's Story

Coach Kathy's Story

Even before starting my journey as a coach and a leader, I’ve always been somebody who loves to learn and then teach. It’s just who I am. That’s how I found myself surrounded by coloured bristol board on a January night about three years ago. I was getting ready to teach high-school students at our church and it was exam time. I knew from previous experience that we weren’t going to get too far with a real lesson and so I was searching through my resources for a Brene Brown activity to create a stress map.

Each sheet of bristol board had ideas that I’d used either in leading a women’s book study group or the kids at our church. I found myself surrounded by challenging ideas and I realized that I wasn’t living these ideas the way I wanted. Life had taken an unexpected turn the previous year and I was struggling. I’d gone from feeling that I was living a life of purpose that aligned with my values to feeling like my foundation was shaken.

I still believed in these ideas and yet, I didn’t know how to live them in my current place. I was fighting myself and trying to get back to my previous “normal” and after over a year of struggle, I was ready for a change. I can remember that night saying to my husband that I needed to find someone to help me explore these ideas and turn them into action.

The Beginning of my Coaching Journey

With some selective searching, I found someone that I thought would be a match and I knew after the first session that I’d found the right person to help me take these ideas and put them into action. Thank you Google! I started to attend regular coaching sessions. Each week, I left with my homework and would spend the time between sessions reflecting on our latest topic and putting ideas into practice. My coach got to know me and it became a real partnership.

I learned to start to take notice of my challenges and I began living these ideas that I valued. For me, one of the most significant changes was learning to be kind to myself. The night I did an activity that helped me understand how I spoke to myself in those uncomfortable moments and the impact it had on me both emotionally AND physically, was a turning point.

I learned the power of thoughts.  I also discovered that small changes can have a significant impact like using the word AND instead of but. Step-by-step, I tackled ideas and then unexpected changes happened. I went from trying to get back to normal, to defining myself in a new way. I learned how two ideas that seemed to be opposing could actually live together. My view of the world started to change. Here’s an example.

When I started with Melissa, I wanted to accept some of the challenges with my back, but I was afraid that if I did that, I was giving up on getting better. It took a few sessions but I started to learn how I could have a level of acceptance AND I could still keep fighting. In fact, this thinking changed how I was reacting physically and made a significant difference in my recovery.

Paying It Forward

Now it is my turn to pass it along. We’ve introduced coaching into our workplace and I had the opportunity to lead sessions with my coach in the large company where I’m a leader. I watched others start to have those transformational moments and I knew that coaching was something I was meant to do. It’s about helping people define what excellence means to them and turning these ideas into action.

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I’m a new leader and this training changed how I approached my team and partners. I’m much more comfortable being curious and asking questions to help me learn and build good connections.
2019-11-07T18:54:57-05:00
I’m a new leader and this training changed how I approached my team and partners. I’m much more comfortable being curious and asking questions to help me learn and build good connections.
My Mom says that she isn’t sure what I’m doing differently, but she likes it!
2019-11-07T18:54:35-05:00
My Mom says that she isn’t sure what I’m doing differently, but she likes it!
I have changed how I speak up in meetings so instead of listening, I’m more comfortable sharing my thoughts.
2019-11-07T18:55:32-05:00
I have changed how I speak up in meetings so instead of listening, I’m more comfortable sharing my thoughts.
This coaching time will help me to become a better person, which will help me to be a better leader.
2019-11-07T18:51:26-05:00
This coaching time will help me to become a better person, which will help me to be a better leader.
I’m very grateful for the connections made with this group. I now feel that when I’m in meetings with these people that I can be more comfortable being myself and taking risks.
2019-11-07T18:52:34-05:00
I’m very grateful for the connections made with this group. I now feel that when I’m in meetings with these people that I can be more comfortable being myself and taking risks.